Life in a list: The Brighter Life list

There is something quite sobering about lying in a hospital bed before life-saving cancer surgery and wondering if you’ll last the day - let alone the next decade.

In that bed, with just a gown, some paper knickers (if you could call them that) and the tightest stockings you will ever wear for company, I didn’t have an image. It didn’t matter if I had a career or a house or a nice handbag. In that moment, I had just one thing and one thing only: my memories.

Illness really does strip you bare and remind you of all the things that matter. Lying there, I remember thinking about all the times I’d stayed at home to make something for a friend (a cake, a knitted dishcloth, a chutney), when really what I should have been doing was making time for that friend.

So that’s why, when I was discharged from the hospital in my body corset (to help me walk after they used my tummy fat to reconstruct my right breast), I didn’t dig out the knitting needles. I went straight for the notebook. 

And I wrote a list. A long list. 

As far as lists go, the ‘Brighter Life' list – a distillation of all that you want to experience in life – is one of the best lists you will ever write.

This is no bucket list. This isn’t a list about death, but a pledge to live life and make memories as often as you can. 

It’s not a finite list, but a work in progress. It started on my blog smallboobsbigsmiles.com and has evolved in a series of notebooks since then (it amuses me that I like stationery about as much as lists). 

And it’s not an outrageously ambitious list (with Everest scaling and skydiving on the agenda), but one with a good smattering of quick wins and activities within my control as well as hopefully-soon-to-be lifetime achievements. 

The Brighter Life list is one of my ‘make it happen’ lists, a group of lists designed to making achieving things a routine activity. You can either read the original list here or read the edit below (not doing too bad bearing in mind I started it two years ago:

Brighter Life list: the things I’ve achieved

  1. Make my own crumpets 
  2. Travel to the Amalfi Coast
  3. Raise £10,000 for breast cancer charities
  4. Do an overnight walk through London 
  5. Walk around Olympic Park (I missed out in 2012)
  6. Swim at the Aquatics Centre (50m of sheer joy)
  7. Get published 
  8. Stand on a cliff with no hair on my head (niche, I appreciate)
  9. Make my own lip balm (stick to the bought stuff)
  10. Buy a new sofa 
  11. Grow my own Gerberas
  12. Fill our garden with alliums
  13. Make a ferment
  14. Enjoy a carol service in the Capital
  15. Take a trip on the Orient Express
  16. Watch Shakespeare at The Globe
  17. Visit the Royal Albert Hall
  18. Win an award for me
  19. Make mulled wine
  20. Make a cake for Test Match Special (yes, but not quite ticked off thanks to a security guard) 
  21. Visit Kew Gardens
  22. Make sausage rolls
  23. Watch Cats
  24. Carve a pumpkin
  25. Visit the HMS Belfast 
  26. Go up The Shard
  27. Run a marathon
  28. Ride the Emirates line
  29. See Mona Lisa at The Louvre in Paris

Unfinished Brighter Life list business includes (won’t exhaust you with the whole list):

  1. Plan a wedding (ongoing)
  2. Make my own wedding cake
  3. Do the three peaks challenge
  4. Stay in a treehouse
  5. Travel to Lapland
  6. Write a book
  7. Make a piece of clothing from scratch
  8. Eat at The Fat Duck
  9. Stay at Center Parcs 
  10. Make proper lemonade
  11. Watch The Lion King and Book of Mormon
  12. Buy a whole salmon at Christmas and fillet it
  13. Visit the Greenwich Planetarium
  14. Visit Wimbledon and watch a game on Centre Court
  15. Make wine
  16. Conquer the macaroon
  17. Learn to pipe icing properly
  18. Make piccalilli
  19. Complete a trek
  20. Gain >2000 Twitter followers
  21. Climb a mountain
  22. Be quoted in an article/on TV
  23. Deliver a TED talk or equivalent inspirational speech
  24. Go skiing
  25. Learn to dive
  26. Make breast screen part of cervical screening test
  27. Go to New York 
  28. Travel business class on a plane 
  29. Help improve data collection for those with secondary breast cancer
  30. Make almond croissants
  31. Spend New Year’s Eve in a different time zone
  32. Encourage young women to do more volunteering 
  33. Plan and execute a big charity fundraiser
  34. Go abroad for lunch/dinner and back in a day
  35. Develop a signature bake
  36. Make jaffa cakes
  37. Wear a size 4 dress (not to be achieved at same time as 36) and 38) 
  38. Make pork pies 
  39. Watch a concert at the 02
  40. Enter poetry competition
  41. Become fluent in a language
  42. Learn chinese
  43. Make own cookbook
  44. Watch a live athletics event 

What’s interesting about this list (other than reminding me I still have A LOT to do) is that if you craft your own and try to spot themes, you can work out what you really love to do. For me that’s:

  • Health and exercise-related challenges
  • Cooking (mainly baking) and eating good food
  • Travel and adventure
  • Learning and creativity (particularly writing)
  • Charity

This interestingly matches my earlier blog about nurturing a hobby. The only thing missing is the people with which I hope to tick them off.

So, get listing and, if you think you can help me achieve any of the above, please do get in touch. 

Let’s raise a toast to the brighter life. May you find yours.